Despite the fact that we are living in the 21st century and that many of us like to think that tolerance abounds in all corners of the universe – when the bride is pregnant, people talk. Now for some this might be a particularly stressful reality, while others will shrug their shoulders and get on with things. Either way, when it comes to unplanned pregnancies, the subject of marriage is bound to come up sooner or later.
Should you quickly get married?
The answer is “yes” only if both of you want to.
If you have to convince yourself that it’s the “right thing to do” then it might very well not be. If you are caving to pressure from any outside sources (or even caving to pressure from each other) then you are likely to end up with quite a few regrets. Having a baby is scary enough without forcing yourself into a union that you feel obliged to. Don’t do it to yourself, or your baby for that matter.
If the idea makes you smile, gets you excited and fills you with peace, then my dear, you go right ahead and get ready to say “I do”.
Why now instead of later?
Perhaps you were planning to get married anyway. Maybe you were already sporting a ring before the strip on that stick turned pink. What’s the rush? Well… there is no rush if you don’t want to rush. (If you don’t want to rush, then you could also wait and plan the wedding that you were already planning for after the baby is born – which means that your new angel gets to be in the pictures too!) It is, however, just as acceptable to feel like you would like your child to be born to married parents and if you both agree that getting married as soon as possible is what you want to do, then do it.
Can it be done?
Yes! It can be done. And you know what else? It can be done well. Just because you are now planning a wedding in two months instead of a year does not mean that you can’t have the wedding that you have always wanted. It just means that you’re going to have to get creative.
What are your thoughts on a shotgun wedding? Would you get married just because you’re pregnant?
Happy Wedding Planning!