So you would imagine that a bridal blog would be filled with great advice, helpful tips and funny stories of couples trying to plan their pending matrimony and lives together. Whilst I love to share some of the gems I’ve picked up along the way, I think it’s time the tables are turned and I ask the questions I really want to.
Newlyweds, wives, husbands and engaged folk, feel free to reply with your honest answers and thoughts. I have no doubt that many before me have asked these same questions.
How involved should your groom be?
For bride-to-be’s, I bet you didn’t even realise you were doing most of the planning until your beloved repeats a joke about “just having to rock up.” And I’m sure there really isn’t a once size fits all situation here. If your man has never been a planner, this spark is not suddenly going to ignite. If you are the main organiser who plans your social calendar and remembers all the birthdays, anniversaries and gifts to purchase, he is not likely to morph into the head organiser who takes notes, remembers invitation deadlines and various shades of coral.
But in many cases, guys like some direction and instruction. My fiancé wanted to help, but claimed he needed a list. So upon ticking off the first item of the list, he merrily informed me one task was complete. To remember the 101 things you’ve already accomplished up until now will not do you any good. Smile, pat him on the back and encourage him in the direction of task two. You’ll all be pleased to know that he is fully on planning wagon and fully he believes he is the best invitation designer and gift registry shopper.
Why are wedding shoes white?
Well of course you don’t HAVE to wear white strappy sandals to your wedding, but you may as well have to as there aren’t any bridal boutiques who stock them in any other colour. They only seem to come in dainty varieties with beads and rather scary adornments. Power to those of you who like them, but I have seen about three white pairs of shoes that I can actually stomach.
And this is after reading a lot of bridal magazines and browsed ample stores. So I’m going with non-wedding shoes. Anything that pops with colour, is comfortable and won’t cripple me four hours into our wedding. Sexy is important, but you don’t want to be limping before you’ve even had your first dance. Plus you don’t want to be sinking into the grass with your stilettos .
What are the essentials for your gift registry?
What fun to walk around home stores envisioning what you’d like your future home to look like. People prioritize different things. While my fiancé is adamant we cannot do without a stick blender, I’m pretty there are other kitchen items ranking way higher in priority. What is acceptable to put on the wedding registry?
What is considered too expensive and do you really want to put a toilet brush on there? A married friend of ours gave us some helpful advice, she said that whilst we should put practical things on the list, adding your nice-to-haves is great too. The more extravagant items should also be added too as you never know what people are willing to bless you with on your special day. If not, then ok. But imagine you score a coffee machine…heaven.
Any thoughts you have on these questions, feel free to comment fervently.
Read more from Lauren as she plans her wedding in our Bride to Be section.
Photograph courtesy of Lauren Manuel © (photo taken while Lauren and Vaughan were planning their gift registry)
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