There is something particularly blissful about the time between saying “yes” to a marriage proposal to the moment you get to say “I do” in front of your friends and family, but it is easy to get so lost in the wedding planning phase that you almost forget where you and your significant other are headed: marriage.
Now there are quite a few myths out there about marriage and it is good to be aware of these inaccurate presumptions so that you can feel better equipped as you step into your happily ever after.
Here are some of the most popular myths in circulation today:
Myth: Marriage is a dying institution
As much as we like to joke about the dying institution of marriage, equating it to buying cows and getting free milk as well as pigs and sausages (sigh) this myth couldn’t be further from the truth. Studies have shown that 80% of Americans eventually get married and that marriage is still considered the basis of the family.
Myth: Living together is the same as being married, just “without a piece of paper”
The commitment of marriage brings about an incredible physical and emotional well-being that is not necessarily present with simple co-habitants. While it is perfectly reasonable to believe that being married might bring with it more trials than simply living together does, it is also good to know that there is a psychological benefit to being solidly committed to each other.
Myth: Married couples have less satisfying sex lives than single people
The truth is that married couples have both more and better sex than their single counterparts. It is also true that married couples enjoy both the emotional as well as physical benefits of sex more.
Myth: Love is all you need for a successful marriage
No … Honey … Just no. Of course love is at the forefront of any successful marriage, but love and a successful marriage are most certainly not mutually exclusive. Respect. Commitment. Tolerance. Tenacity. Prudence. Humour. And of course, simple kindness. There are many factors that fit together to create a good marriage, some of them work naturally on their own, and some you need to work on yourself.
Myth: You can save your marriage by having a baby
This is one of the scariest myths that people believe these days. Having a baby to save a relationship is simply irresponsible. Even if the existence of a child keeps your partner in your life, the marriage has by no means been “saved” by this. Yes, children can bring close couples even closer, and there is a bond that forms between two people who share a child, but having children is a monumental life change and a rocky relationship will only be further stressed by this kind of change.
There are so many silly little beliefs out there that cause our little bubbles to burst when we come face to face with the reality of marriage, but so many of them are just “silly delusions” and all it takes to get back on track is a little reality check. Rather try to let go of extremely high expectations and take everything one day at a time.
And never forget the reasons that you fell in love in the first place!
Happy Wedding Planning!