Your best friend has just invited you to be her bridesmaid – yes! Pretty little dress number guaranteed, a bit of attention on the ‘big day’ and perhaps a bouquet to take home at the end of it …
Well, actually, a bridesmaid, or maid of honour, despite obviously being one person the bride definitely wants to have at her wedding, has certain responsibilities. You’re obviously, together with any other bridesmaids, someone on whom the bride can depend when it comes to making decisions and to help support her during the run-up to the big day.
But there are a couple of issues that might need a little ‘ironing out’ about wedding dresses and things, so let’s look at what might be included on the bridesmaid’s list of ‘duties’:
- help the bride choose her wedding dress
- make suggestions about the bridesmaids’ dresses (a friend was gracious enough to allow her bridesmaids the chance to choose individual little ‘black numbers’, so that they were gifts for any future functions as well)
- if she asks, give advice on wedding décor, favours, music, photographers, table layout, wedding flowers etc.
- if you’re the maid of honour (usually the case if you’re the only bridesmaid) you will be more involved in wedding planning, helping to choose locations, florists, caterers and vendors
- hold the bouquet during the ceremony
- be included in some of the official wedding photographs
- help plan the hen’s party or kitchen tea (you and those attending can split the costs)
- on the day, help the bride dress
- stay calm and collected, this is HER day and you’re her moral support
- help with guests at the reception, should they need it
Being a friend’s bridesmaid can add up. You can foot the bill for travel, your outfit, your accommodation, your share of the hen’s night and the wedding gift. If the bride can afford it, she may pay for some of this out of her budget. But she’d do the same for you, so it’s worth it.
Happy Wedding Planning!