Don’t Let Myths about Second Weddings Get you Down: Part 3 – Showers, Wedding Parties & Presents

posted on 3 June 2013 by The Tie The Knot Team
posted to Wedding Tips & Advice

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By now you are hopefully planning your wedding your way, you have graciously accepted a little financial help from your mom and you are wearing that gorgeous white gown that you initially walked away from because your granny pointed out that you are no longer a virgin.

Myth #4: You are not allowed to have a wedding party

I’m not quite sure how this particular myth came about since the first myth about second weddings  was about not being able to have a wedding in the first place, but this is possibly the most ridiculous myth of them all. I can’t imagine why it would be considered “not proper” to have a wedding party at a second wedding. The whole point of a wedding party is to have a few of those people closest to you stand up for you. It’s almost as if someone decided that divorced or widowed individuals are no longer worthy of having friends? Some vague argument about “the same people who were at your first wedding will probably be the same people you want to invite to your second” blah blah blah. And? And these people stopped loving you because your first marriage failed? I don’t think so…

Myth #5: Wedding announcements for second weddings are tasteless

I’m not entirely sure why but apparently the misguided consensus seems to be that it is better for you to just pretend that you current relationship does not exist. All those uptight people will feel far more comfortable this way.

Darling…announce that wedding! Post seventeen pictures of your engagement ring on Facebook and ring bells and blow whistles if you want. You’re engaged?! That’s fantastic news! Tell the newspapers. Tell the world.

Myth #6: Second-Time Brides are not allowed to have Hen Parties or Kitchen Teas

Well, if you buy into this particular rule then you are going to need to clear that with your bridesmaids because I’m pretty sure they’ve been in a corner giggling and making plans for your hen night ever since you asked them to stand up for you.

Myth #7: Gifts are not allowed at second weddings

Who makes these rules anyway? Huh? Don’t these people know you lost half your stuff in the divorce? Can you imagine getting ready for a wedding and your plus one asks you, “Hey honey, what gift did you get?” and your response is “Oh this is her second wedding so I didn’t get her a gift.” Of course not! Granted second weddings do kind of mean that it is likely that you are pretty set up as far as spatulas and towels go, but that does not mean that there is no room for gifts. It is completely fine for you to register somewhere if you want, otherwise just make sure that whoever is handling your RSVPs knows what kind of gifts to suggest if anyone asks.

So you see? All that second wedding anxiety is kind of silly. Instead of worrying about propriety and what everyone else is going to think, revel in these moments. Second chances are a beautiful thing. And you know what? There is a kind of wisdom that goes along with having done this all before. Use that wisdom and have fun!

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  1. 3 Jun 2013
    Michelle says

    A wedding is a wedding.. It is the coming together of two people who love each other … It shouldnt be any differernt to your first, second or even third wedding … Ignore the myths, marriage is a beautiful thing and should be celebrated the way you want it.