If you are currently planning your second wedding then it is possible that the question “Is it proper?” has reared its ugly head a couple of times already. Whether you heard it from a friend or colleague or even if you keep asking the question yourself it is time to put the silly second marriage insecurities to rest and move on with the celebrations. While there surely are plenty of people who like to hold on to the ridiculous stigma attached to getting married for the second time, don’t let yourself fall into that trap. Rather take a deep breath and read on while I put a couple of those silly second marriage myths into perspective for you.
Myth #2: The Family Shouldn’t Pay for the Wedding
You know how I keep emphasising the “you” part of the equation when it comes to decisions about everything? Like how it is your choice when it comes to every last detail about what kind of wedding you would or would not like to have? Well, guess what? When it comes to money, the owner of said money has a whole bunch of choices too. So if your dear sweet mother decides that she would like to take care of the catering bill then she is perfectly entitled to do so! I promise that there is no marriage etiquette fairy who will suddenly pop out of the sky and smite you and your mom. The same goes for generous uncles, dads, siblings and in-laws. Sure, you might not want to ask for money or simply assume that Daddy Dearest is going to pay for wedding number two, but that doesn’t mean that he won’t!
Myth #3: Second Time Brides Can’t Wear White.
Again…No! You know what the white wedding dress is supposed to symbolize? Virginity. Or purity. Out of the last ten brides that you have seen wearing white how many of them do you think were virgins? One? Two? None?! Exactly! I’m sorry honey but even if your dear family members have some sort of weird idea about who does and does not get to wear white, if it is acceptable for your cousin who has made her way through four live-in boyfriends to wear white down the aisle, then it is acceptable for you to do so. Again…it is your choice! Your great aunt Martha might have something to say about it, but so what? Do you know what else the colour white symbolizes? Joy. As far as I’m concerned that’s a far better reason to wear white than some outdated idea of what makes a woman “pure”.
Happy Wedding Planning!