So you’re in a relationship with the partner of your dreams and you’re starting to feel like you might be ready for your relationship to move to the next level. While the idea of upgrading your relationship status from “seriously dating” to a more permanent commitment might be a little daunting, you can take comfort in the fact that if you’re thinking about marriage you are already well on your way to being ready for it.
Here are some questions to think about before you make the decision to walk down that aisle.
Do you want to settle down?
If you are getting to a point in your life where continuous parties and futureless one-night-stands are no longer even remotely appealing then it’s quite possible that the marriage bug has started to bite. Growing out of your bachelor / bachelorette ways may feel like a bittersweet end of an era, but it is also the start of a new one. Don’t fight it … go with it!
Do you want to get married so that you can have a wedding or do you want to get married because you want to have a marriage?
This might seem like a ridiculous question, but if you’ve been planning your wedding since you were five and have spent most of your life longing for the day that you get to walk down the aisle, you might want to question your exact motives when it comes to making this commitment. By all means, be over-the-moon excited about your wedding, but if the thought of getting married excites you more than being married then you might need to re-asses your priorities.
Do you know that your significant other feels the same way about your relationship as you do?
If there is a tug-of-war thing happening in the where-you-stand department of your relationship then it’s likely that you guys aren’t ready to take the leap into marital bliss. If you’re a guy and you are thinking of proposing but don’t know that she will say “yes”, then it might be best to wait until you are sure. Having to talk your fiancé into marriage is not a good sign.
Do you just know?
At the end of the day there are possibly a thousand important questions that you can ask yourself, but none of them count as much as that instinctual gut feeling that tells you Yes, this is who I want to marry! Do you know? Because it really is important that you do…
Happy Wedding Planning!