Why My Wedding Was Wonderful

posted on 4 March 2013 by The Tie The Knot Team
posted to Real Weddings

Nadine

It’s my first wedding anniversary this weekend and I thought I’d indulgently take this opportunity to tell you about MY wedding and why it was so awesome. Now please don’t get me wrong, I’m not getting competitive here and suggesting you do anything “my” way, I just think there might be a little bit of wisdom to be found in the way we did things, and I do look back on that day with pride and feel happy that we were so unconventional.

A little bit about us first though. My husband and I met on twitter (how very 21st century of us!) and got serious about each other pretty much immediately. When we got engaged it was all very unexciting … which sounds terrible …. but the inevitability of us ending up together watered it down a bit. I was happy of course because yay I got new jewellery! But we were already committed to each other long before engagement rings came in to play. Anyway, I found myself a bit lost after that. I kind of felt like I should be excited about all this wedding planning stuff, but I just couldn’t find the excitement. I was excited to be married, but had very bland feelings about the getting married part. This worried me for a while because you’re not supposed to be unexcited about your own wedding! But then I went back to my home town (a little dorpie in the middle of nowhere!) and things changed for me. As my (then) fiancé and I sat watching one of my closest friends get married, I turned to my man and said, “Let’s come here and get married. We won’t even tell anyone. We’ll just come.” By that time we had been engaged for over a year already and for the first time I felt a stirring of excitement. My man of course said “yes” because he always says yes!

I immediately went to the pastor of my church, the man whose church I had spent my entire childhood in, and asked him if I could get married under the willow tree in the church yard. He said yes too. After that everything just fell into place.

Of course actually “eloping” was out of the question. It would break my mom’s heart not to be part of everything. So what we decided to do was plan a small but still secret wedding. I’m not sure why we decided to keep it “secret” but there was something special about that. Kind of high school silly-kid special. Where we secretly discussed plans. It was dumb. But fun.

Here are a few of the things that made it great:

  • There ended up being exactly 21 people at our wedding. Most of them were in the wedding party, and the rest were immediate family. We dragged them all down to my little dorpie (and organized for them to stay with friends of ours) and we went on to have our little wedding.
  • Having a “little” wedding took off a lot of pressure. I didn’t have to worry about what anyone would think because there was no one to worry about. I didn’t have to worry about people being bored or anything like that. It was my immediate family and three of my closest friends. They could look after themselves!
  • I got to be married by someone I care about. Because we made the effort to go “home” to get married, the ceremony was done by someone who not only knows me well, but who knows us as a couple very well too.
  • The setting was gorgeous. We got married under a willow tree that I literally grew up under. I remember when they planted that tree on the church lawn and today it is massive and beautiful. It made for a fantastic setting.
  • My sister sang me down the aisle.  This was particularly special. My sister is such a talented creature and she sang a song which she wrote called “Your Love is a Song” while I walked down the aisle. Her voice set the tone for the day, and she has one of those talents that settles the soul and tickles the tear ducts. It was perfect.
  • We had a tea-time reception. Tea time food is so much fun to plan. Cupcakes and cookies and fun savoury snacks. Of course my mom and I did all the catering ourselves. That proved to be a bit more time-consuming than we had initially expected but we managed just fine.
  • We took photographs after the wedding.  Instead of disappearing after the ceremony and leaving our guests to their own devices, we had the reception first and then disappeared with the photographer afterwards. Our guests then got to go home and take a nap while we took photographs without feeling any time pressure and then we all met up again later.
  • We went raspberry picking.  Because we were all away from home, the wedding was more of a “weekend away” than a simple event, so what we did was we organized to go raspberry picking on a nearby farm. My guests all got baskets and got to have fun picking their own raspberries.
  • We had a braai. Yes. After we were done with our raspberry picking we had a braai under the stars. I know you are laughing. It makes me laugh too, and the fact that we “had a braai” at our wedding is something I joke about often.

I smile thinking about that day. A year later and it feels so recent. It was our day in every way and the people we love the most really all did their best to gather around and make everything work for us. It was simple, uncomplicated and thankfully  cost effective. It suited us perfectly. And the best part is that even though it was a bit of an odd wedding, what really hit home for me was the importance of always doing things your way.  Perhaps that sounds selfish. But your things should be done your way. No convention or tradition or person should ever dictate how or when or where you should do things. It really is ok to do things exactly the way you want to. Because, in the words of the ever-wise Dr. Seuss, “Those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind.”

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  1. 4 Mar 2013
    Taryn Coates says

    <3 it! Your wedding really was perfectly you :)