Lauren’s Bridal Diary: When Engagement Europhia Turns To Wedding Planning Panic
When the hot guy you first kissed at 17; the one with the dark hair, delicious dimples who you’ve dreamt of having babies with, gets down on one knee and asks you to marry him, you best believe it’s going to be one of the best moments of your existence. He also happens to have been your best friend and boyfriend for the past three years. Jealous much? Well it’s true I am the luckiest girl in the world, but that’s not why I’m writing this bridal blog.
I’m writing to give single gals some idea of what planning a wedding is like, empathise with engaged ladies and perhaps give the married ladies a little chuckle as they too recall arguments with their moms over which distant aunt to exclude from the guest list. This will all go down in the next six months as we decided a long engagement is pointless, we’re impatient to start our lives together and wedding planning is not something we want to be ponder for an entire year lest our sanity or relationship takes unnecessary strain.
A married friend gave me great advice- to allocate specific ‘wedding evenings’ when wedding talk is allowed. Because before you know it, the only thing you’re saying to your new fiancé is, “should we serve bowl foods or a three course meal, can we exclude your drunken uncle or perhaps we really should elope to a tropical island.” Even though your relationship has moved to the next level, this shouldn’t mean that your time usually spent outdoors, picnicking or watching movies should be consumed by topics such as guest list, wedding favours and affordable wedding venues (a combination of myth and wishful thinking).
Once he’s popped the question, you’ve silently screamed “finally” and celebrate with friends and family, the very first question that every human will ask is, “so when you’re planning to get married?” In the same way that you’ll be haunted by the “when you having kids?” question the second you have uttered your nuptials. We took this question in our stride, decided on a date six months from now and then slipped into mild wedding planning panic. In this introductory phase, I would suggest breathing, quit suggesting you elope at every stressful moment and remember that the best part of it all is that you get to spend the rest of your life with him.
Read more from Lauren as she plans her wedding in our Bride to Be section.
This photograph was taken just after the lovely couple got engaged, we love the pure happiness and joy in this pic! Photograph courtesy of Lauren Manuel ©
Happy Wedding Planning!
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