Candice’s Bridal Diary: A Case Of Wedding Apathy

posted on 14 February 2013 by The Tie The Knot Team
posted to Bride To Be, Candice


For the past two weeks or so, I haven’t been able to bring myself to do anything vaguely wedding related.  Invitations need to be designed and sent out, dress fitting appointments need to be made…but to be honest, I’d rather be doing anything else  – clearing out my clothes cupboard, catching up on tax returns … getting stuck into a new series.

Please don’t think I don’t want to get married – I do. Deeply, and more than anything. It’s just the “wedding” side of things that I’ve lost interest in. It seems like so much effort for one day – when there is so much else to focus on – like starting a home together, and giving our actual marriage the best chance it can have.

If I didn’t already have my dress I would seriously consider the option of eloping – I now completely understand the appeal. Or telling people to meet us at a set location at a set time – witness our marriage and then all celebrate with a care-free family style lunch afterwards.

I completely acknowledge that I could easily sound like the Grinch Who Stole Weddings, but I’m sure it’s just a phase and as we get closer to April I’ll resume my warm, fuzzy wedding feelings and fall back in love with choosing my flowers, the fonts for our menus and table settings for the reception. Is this something anyone else has experienced?  Have you “lost interest” a little during the wedding planning process?

Read more from Candice as she plans her wedding in our Bride to Be section.

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What Do You Think?

  1. 15 Feb 2013
    Philani says

    Hi guys, I went through the same thing before my wedding….Got married in January, but between October & November, I was just sooo ‘over it’ Everyone wanted to know whats happening, did I do this, did I remember to do that, when am I going to do that…and so on – I remember telling my mom to not ask about the wedding unless I started the conversation :-) .
    But when December came the excitement came rushing back – only 1 month to go and so much to do :-) I got right into it and enjoyed all of it, and up to the best day ever!
    So keep your head up, take a break, take a week or 2 if you need to and take the time to do something for yourself and not for the wedding. It really is worth all the effort. (just dont sweat the small stuff – no-one’s gonna notice)

    • 15 Feb 2013
      Candice Le Noury says

      Hi Philani (and Tansyn!) So happy to hear it’s not an “abnormal” thing – went for my first official dress fitting last night – and that helped with the excitement. I think actually seeing physical elements of the day will make it so much more real…

  2. 14 Feb 2013
    Tansyn says

    Oh my word, thank you so very much for this! I am getting married in October and although we still have lots of time, i just feel like there is so much to do and so much money to spend for just ONE DAY!! Yes i want my wedding day to be perfect, happy and memorable but i will be marrying my soul mate and spending the rest of my life with him; why do i need all these fancy and expensive things to do this?!?

    • 14 Feb 2013
      Candice Le Noury says

      Hi Tansyn! You’re definitely not alone. The only reason we’re not eloping is because we just may regret not having the pretty white dress in photographs afterwards – but the appeal is definitely there! Going for a dress fitting this evening – so maybe that will rekindle some wedding – love. Also, we’re having a very small (30 people) wedding – so maybe that makes it a little bit easier too?